go to link [[Duplicate intro] I really wanted to post a new workout last week before it got too close to the weekend (I think posts at the start or mid-week tend to be seen by more people), so I ended up doing something I probably shouldn’t have done: I did 2 workouts in one day **GASP** … And yet, I didn’t manage to organise myself to write and edit! *sigh* But in the meantime I got time to reflect on some stuff that I’d quite like to share.]
The lesson is the same but never gets old.
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http://marylanduniqueproperties.com/?p=describe-my-best-friend-essay You see, fake perfection only elevates me on a brittle pedestal and it leaves a “residue” on the world that makes others feel the need to try harder to attain this ideal. It breeds this comparison culture and it creates an environment for shame to flourish, making us feel alone where we’re at. I know that some of this residue has rubbed off on me, because no matter how much I intellectually know that perfection doesn’t exist (in this reality, anyway), I can still feel bad about myself for not being better, funnier, leaner etc. You see, I can easily feel inferior and insecure in the next hour even after writing this. In fact, I guarantee that you can look back right now at one or two things that you have had victory over and are already re-worrying about. But these “thought cycles” don’t need to continue to have the same power over me each time they “attack”. I can see them for what they are (often after at least a little reaction to them) and I can speak truth to myself about the situation and then reflect and write about it 😀 It has its uses, really!
follow We are all capable of growth, and thoughts can change, but sometimes the one thing that doesn’t change is the “theme of thinking”. So in one way I can give up feeling guilty for not looking perfect, but I take up a new obsession about being the perfect wife, or the perfect writer, or mother, or or or… The common theme here is that my thinking is self-obsessed (I’m thinking about what I need to do to have my needs met) and it needs to be turned outward to recognise the needs of others, rather than focused on my own needs. It’s like the proverbs that talk about becoming rich (in character) by being generous (giving). Messages teaching that to receive love, you must give love. To be released from resentment (often feeling you are owed a sorry), you should instead forgive. You don’t wait for yourself to be perfectly loveable, you release all that you have to give.
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http://www.fiascoultimate.com/college-admission-application-essay/ college admission application essay I don’t need to be super-woman; I just need to be a beautiful “mess”. What I took away from this snippet of shame (the snippet that broke the camels back) is to, once and for all, stop caring so much about what others think of me. You see, what I really want from life is to start caring *for* others through my attitude, my words, and my actions. Not wasting time trying to appear perfect, or become overly concerned with being perceived as anything but what I actually am. Doing so will only block love (the most beautiful kind) in both directions.
http://historia-sportu.cba.pl/?monster-com-for-employers Don’t worry about being accepted; be accepting of others. Quit worrying about getting encouragement; be encouraging. Stop waiting [to be perfect enough] for the world to love you before you love the world.
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